Funeral Proceedings on the Day

Key Points

  • Arriving 15 to 30 minutes before the start of the service is sufficient time.
  • It is a personal choice as to ‘when and how’ you wish to greet guests.
  • If it is too difficult to speak, simply thank people for being there.
  • People will not be shocked if you become emotional.
  • Your funeral director is there to assist at all times.

After the Service & Refreshments

If the service is being held in a chapel at a cemetery or crematorium, it may be that there is another service following shortly afterwards.  If this is the case, the amount of time available to speak to guests will be limited, and the…

Graveside Service

The funeral directors will give further instructions to the pallbearers, on how to carry the coffin to the grave where it will rest on straps.  A decision will have been made beforehand, as to whether the coffin flowers will be lowered into the…

During the Service

Eulogy and Readings:  Reading a eulogy, personal reflections, bible reading or poem can be a very emotional experience.  Remember that everyone listening can fully understand and relate to the difficultly of the task, and most will admire and respect your courage in expressing…

Viewing of the Deceased

If you have arranged to spend time with your loved one (viewing) before the service commences, the funeral director will guide you on arrival to the viewing area. They will have requested instructions from you beforehand, as to who is permitted to attend,…

Children at a Funeral Service

Older children should sit with their family, closest to whoever can give them the most comfort. If you bring young children, carefully explain to them the importance of being on their very best behaviour, together with what to expect during the service. Very…

Seating at a Funeral Service

The first two rows of seating are traditionally reserved for family and close friends, and guests usually take the seating behind this area. If there are a large number of family members wishing to be seated together and this requires more than 2…

Arriving at the Service

Transport There are advantages in using a limousine and car hire service. Many families choose to use their own cars for transportation to the funeral, and if required, in the funeral cortege. Consider using a limousine and car hire service, as they can…

What to Wear to a Funeral

The wearing of black and formal dress at funerals is declining. Though in western culture, many men still prefer to wear a suit and tie, and most women will wear fashionable clothing with a minimum of jewellery. It is acceptable to wear less formal…