Writing a Eulogy

Key Points

  • The average eulogy is about 5 minutes long.
  • It does not have to be a biography of the deceased.
  • It should be factual, honest and respectful and convey the personality of the deceased.
  • If in doubt about a humorous comment, leave it out.
  • Ask for feedback from family and friends.
  • Rehearse the eulogy but don’t try to memorise it, as emotions may affect your memory on the day.
  • On the day, go slowly, be calm and take your time.

On the day

There’s no need to speak in a formal way if it is not authentic. Don’t worry if your voice breaks or you have a few tears or you lose your way. Remember emotions are normal and it’s what people are expecting at a…

Rehearse the Eulogy

The more familiar you are with the words, the more comfortable you will be when delivering the eulogy. Don’t expect to commit it to memory, but your words will sound more heartfelt if you’re not reading every sentence word for word off the…

Eulogy Content

Simply state your name and a few words to describe your relationship to the deceased.  If you’re related to the deceased, describe how; if not, say a few words about how and when you met. It could be that the family have written the…

Eulogy Structure

The task of writing and delivering a meaningful and uplifting eulogy requires preparation. You will need to reflect and decide on the tone of the eulogy.  Your role is not only to share memories of the deceased, but to celebrate their life and…

How to Write a Eulogy?

You don’t have to be a great writer or orator to deliver a heartfelt and meaningful eulogy that captures the personality of the deceased. It should be considered an honour that you have been asked to deliver the eulogy.  This honour comes with…