Death is a part of life, and most children have some degree of  knowledge, or perhaps perception of what death means.

Many of us avoid talking about something that is obviously upsetting, so children will often hesitate to bring up the subject or ask questions about it.  We can make it easier for them to talk to us if we are open, honest, and comfortable with our own feelings, which is not always an easy thing to do.

A child can need as much time and space to grieve as an adult, so it is important to talk to them about their loss using words they understand, and to include them in conversations.  By talking to your children about death, you can discover what they know and do not know, and if they have misconceptions, fears, or worries. You can then help them by providing needed information, comfort, and understanding.

What you say about death to your children, or when you say it, will depend on their ages and experiences. It will also depend on your own experiences, beliefs, feelings, and the circumstances of the death.  You may need to examine your own emotions and belief system, so that you can talk to them as naturally as possible when the opportunities arise.  Always answer their questions honestly, as older children are likely to be asked questions by their friends.

It is also important to tell teachers and carers what has happened, so they can monitor for any changes you need to know about.  Inform them of any changes you have observed in the child’s personality or attitude, or specific concerns you want them to be aware of.

If you do feel the child needs help in coming to terms with their loss, then see your doctor or consider a counselling service.

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